Our program is designed to accommodate busy schedules, allowing you to learn at your own pace and progress through the modules when it's most convenient for you. We recommend that you dedicate 2 hours per week to this program. At this rate, you will complete the program in 4 weeks. However, it is up to you how quickly you progress through this experience. We have seen people complete the entire program within 1 week!

Absolutely! Investing in your relationship is an investment in your happiness and well-being. For the cost of just a handful of therapy sessions, this program gives you the same skills and growth opportunities as 15-20 traditional sessions. Fight Less, Love More is packed with expert wisdom and relational gems that you won’t get anywhere else.

We know that in every relationship couples argue or have the odd partner fight. This program is for anyone who senses any negative shift in how they view their partner, themselves, or their relationship.

It's designed so you can start dealing with the underlying issues of anger and stop fighting. It's to help you understand how and why you and your partner haven't been able to resolve conflict and are constantly arguing. Its focus is conflict resolution in relationships. It's time to stop feeling like there is something so wrong in your relationship.

Fight Less, Love More is for anyone baffled by their partner's behavior, their responses, and their relationship. This program is for any person wanting to focus on making their relationship stronger with many a good tactic, great conversation, and loving relationship.

100%! This program is for anyone whether you’ve been to therapy before, are currently in therapy, or have never gone before. Fight Less, Love More has been designed as a stand-alone program and all concepts are explained in full.

You can work through this program either individually or with your partner. When couples do this program together, they go on a journey of discovery that is life-changing and increases intimacy. Simply print an additional guide!

If your partner isn't on board - don’t worry! When one partner alone makes positive changes, the relationship feels lighter and more connected. You will enjoy the experience of personal growth and self-improvement, with a ripple effect on your relationship. By leading with love, understanding, and patience, you may just inspire your partner to join you on the journey toward a healthier, happier relationship. Remember, sometimes it just takes one spark to reignite the flame of love and understanding.

You bet! This program has been designed to be an individual journey into how you personally relate. You will improve many different relationship dynamics in your life, from bosses to best friends, children, extended family, and anyone in between.

Absolutely! In fact, for many, it’s even more effective. Fight Less, Love More has proven results as it has been written by an expert with decades of experience in the field. It can be enjoyed from the comfort and privacy of your own home, and you can complete it at your own pace, making it more convenient.

Upon purchase, you will be emailed with access details. You will be directed to the online program where you can simply create your login details and access this at any time.

Upon purchase of Fight Less, Love More you will receive unlimited access to the program so you can revisit it at any time.

A healthy relationship has key elements that are non-negotiable. Some of these are:

1. Supportive nature and mutual kindness - Partners uplift and back each other up, providing a sense of security and encouragement. The relationship is characterized by mutual kindness and support.

2. Able to manage differences - Every relationship has its differences, but in a healthy one, these are addressed openly and constructively.

3. Share team mentality - Partners feel like a cohesive unit or team, work towards shared goals, and support each other's individual dreams. And they also respect and make space for each of their individual needs to be met.

4. Share emotional and physical intimacy - The couple share a deep connection and a healthy level of physical and/or sexual intimacy.

5. Healthy communication - Even during disputes and couple arguments, partners converse with understanding and care, avoiding derogatory comments or personal attacks as they have healthy communication boundaries.

Effectively communicating is pivotal in enhancing the health of a relationship. When partners prioritize open, respectful communications, they create an environment where both individuals feel valued without the need to argue over anything. This sense of security is foundational for trust, allowing each person to express their goals, interests, and desires without fear of judgment or misunderstanding.

For the health of a relationship, it's critical to focus and cultivate the skills to communicate effectively, especially when discussing sensitive or emotionally charged topics. By honing their art of good communication, couples can build a stronger and deeper bond, fostering a relationship where they are both heard and understood. This mutual compassion and respect can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and lasting partnership.

Frequent couple arguments can certainly indicate underlying issues or unresolved conflicts creating an unhealthy relationship. While occasional disagreements are natural and even healthy for a couple to clarify boundaries and understandings, constant fighting often signifies a deeper problem.

There are many contributing factors, it could be due to unaddressed sentiments, differing values, or a lack of effective interaction. Typically, any of these contribute to a lack of emotional safety in the couple's relationship.

If you truly want to stop having the same argument over and over and learn to resolve conflict you need to understand the real reasons why you are fighting. The problem is that you don't know what you don't know, and most couples have no idea why they find themselves in cycles of conflict. They know they don't want to be.

If you want to stop constant arguing then you need expert advice and skills training from someone trained to work therapeutically with couples. You need to be able to access the help - this can be face-to-face sessions, online programs, books, and free online material.

Warning - be careful who you seek help from. Many people without qualifications claim they are 'relationship experts' offering programs with poor advice and lacking any research validity. This can be harmful to couples, even pushing them closer to separation and divorce.

To resolve couple conflict you need to develop and master essential rapport-building. You need to understand why communication is inherently so challenging for couples in relationships. There are various factors like your past experiences, individual fears, cultural differences, defense mechanisms and much more that can contribute to the challenges.

When couples learn the essentials of this, they can stop arguing. Even if one partner learns the skills it can have a radically positive impact on the relationship. Some of these include: recognizing the impact of your ego as this can your cloud judgment, create defensiveness, or lead to misinterpretations. Becoming a good and curious listener, as well as learning to share your opinions and thoughts skillfully with your partner so you can be heard. And learning the art of apologizing sincerely.

By integrating these steps and regularly practicing them, you can effectively improve your interactions, leading to a more harmonious and understanding relationship with your partner.

Lissy helps people improve their communcation skills every day. Thousands of couples have been helped through her therapy, online programs, her highly acclaimed book Relationship Reset, and her free resources on her website - podcasts, TV appearances, and other interviews.

When arguments with your partner escalate, one of the most effective techniques suggested by Lissy is to pause the fight and take a deep, full breath. This break can prevent hasty reactions and words spoken in the heat of the moment that might be regretted later. This simple act can create a transformative shift, turning potential conflicts into opportunities for understanding and growth.

Other than helping stop fights, taking a deep, long breath has some other benefits:

1. Physiological reset - Deep breathing triggers a relaxation response in the body, reducing the heart rate and calming the nervous system. This physiological shift can help counteract the "fight or flight" stress response that often accompanies heated arguments.

2. Facilitates emotional regulation - Breathing deeply helps in regulating emotions. By controlling one's breathing, one can gain better control over their emotions, leading to a more composed and rational approach to the issue at hand.

3. Re-centers focus - A deep breath, or several, helps to shift the focus from the external conflict to one's internal state. By becoming more aware of one's feelings and reactions, it becomes easier to approach the discussion with greater clarity and perspective.

4. Promotes Mindfulness - Deep breathing fosters mindfulness, encouraging individuals to respond rather than react. By being in the present moment and not getting carried away by their mood, individuals can engage in a more constructive talk.

When there are ongoing arguments escalating in our couple relationship, we often take our partner’s comments, behaviour, opinion, tone of voice or facial expression as a threat. We become triggered into fight or flight - this means our mind and body react to our partner as if they were a hungry bear chasing us. In that moment, the threat feels very real, and unfortunately, we can't distinguish between an actual threat or a perceived one, but we react as if it’s real.

What's happening is that our limbic system, which is our emotional centre, sends messages to prepare and mobilise our physiology for fight or flight. We can’t separate our mind and body into separate entities and this means we need solutions for calming down and learning to de-escalate distress. Some of these include taking time out to pause the argument and returning when you have calmed down. Then in time out you can practice mindfulness and breathing exercises.

In a successful conflict resolution scenario, consider Sarah and Alex, a couple facing a vacation destination dispute. Each person practiced active listening, voiced their sentiments, and realized their shared desire for relaxation. Through compromise and good talk, they decided on a vacation plan combining mountain and beach experiences. They acknowledged each other's feelings and planned together, ensuring both their preferences were met during the trip. This example highlights how open expression, empathy, and compromise can lead to a harmonious resolution of conflicts in a relationship.

Compromising plays a pivotal role in resolving disagreements and helps stop fighting by bridging the gap between opposing viewpoints and fostering harmony in relationships. It ensures that both parties have their needs considered, promotes fairness, and helps prevent conflicts from escalating into destructive disputes. Moreover, compromising preserves relationships, enhances interaction, and builds trust, as individuals learn to value and understand different perspectives. It's a crucial skill that not only resolves immediate issues but also contributes to personal growth and the overall health of relationships, creating a foundation for cooperation and understanding.