Relationships with
Lissy Abrahams

Many of us know that 33% of all marriages in Australia end in divorce. Less of us know that the average time from wedding day to divorce is 12.3 years. However, the statistic that I find surprising is that the average time from wedding day to separation is so short, only 8.7 years. Clearly, something critical is missing in how we conduct relationships, whether we are married or not.

Through my many years as a therapist, I have an understanding of what is missing. Whilst we start relationships with great intentions and hopes for what can be created together, we, unfortunately, don’t know what’s coming next and how to deal with it.

We don’t yet know how having children will alter our couple relationship. We don’t yet know that we may drift from our partner. We don’t yet know how stressful life is going to be. We don’t yet know how differently we will see things from the small to the large. We don’t yet understand why our partner’s words, actions or behaviour creates such strong reactions in us or ours in them. We don’t yet understand why we have upsetting cycles of conflict and blame. We also don’t yet know why many couples head towards separation and divorce.

Even though we hope our relationship will improve, it typically won’t. I know that with some time and focus we can prevent this deterioration and build a more secure relationship. If this is you, there is still a way to alter the trajectory of your relationship.


Learn to Skilfully Communicate with
Your Partner & Decrease Conflict

Repeated cycles of conflict and blame always cause hurt and distress for both partners in a relationship. When this is prolonged and unresolved it may even result in a relationship ending. This course has been designed to ensure that your relationship can not only survive, but also thrive. It will help you to develop the skills needed to improve communication with your partner so that you both become happier and more connected.


Moving from Partners to Parents

Having children is typically the life event that is most impactful on couple
relationships. We are often emotionally unprepared for the magnitude of the disorientating and negative changes that take place. Over time this can lead to disconnection, resentment, conflict, lack of intimacy, and even worse, the possible breakdown of the relationship. This course has been designed to help you get back on track, understanding the changes that have occurred, then prioritising and protecting your couple relationship.


Separation & Divorce: How to Take Control of Your Life

Designed to help people not only manage but take control of their separation and
divorce. Separation is known to be one of life’s major stressors and has been known to provoke anxiety. This is made more stressful as many people are guided down unnecessary, acrimonious, and expensive pathways. The most successful separations are those in which both partners commit to ensuring the best possible outcome for all. This course provides a guide to help you achieve this.


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